Sex in long-term relationships and marriage doesn’t have to get repetitive and uninspired. Instead, the relationship between you and your partner is supposed to grow stronger in time. The same goes for your married sex life. The better you know your partner and what they like, the more enjoyable sex should be.
It is only natural that our daily lives get in the way. With all the chores, money problems, and dealing with kids, we can easily develop the habit of putting our sex lives on the back burner. If you are wondering how to spice up the bedroom situation, we’ve got just the recipe.
Ingredients for a Healthy Christian Sex Life
Both partners need to put in the work to keep the relationship going strong. Here is what you’ll need:
- Sexual and spiritual faithfulness
- Open and honest communication
- Genuine love toward your partner
- Physical attraction
- Devoting enough time to one another
- A playful attitude
- Total acceptance of your significant other, flaws and all
How to Keep Your Sex Life Strong and Healthy
There are plenty of ways to keep having an active and satisfying sex life in your marriage. If you stick to our tips, you’ll feel the flame reignited in no time!
Talk It Out
Communication is instrumental in keeping the Christian romance alive. We don’t mean morning chit chat over coffee — if you want to see lasting results, you have to talk to your partner more. Make your conversations honest and meaningful, and share your deepest secrets and desires. You’ll be surprised at what you will discover about your partner. If you connect through intimate communication, it will surely reflect on your sex life!
You also have to open up to your partner about what you expect from sex. Remember not to be critical; instead, be straightforward about what you want. There’s no need to suffer in silence. If your needs aren’t being met, it will only lead to further disappointment and resentment. By sharing what you want and like, lovemaking will become a more wholesome and pleasurable experience that will create an even stronger bond between you two.
Have a Plan
If you feel that you both want but never seem to have time to have sex, simply make a schedule. Some people say that planning sex can kill the mood, but we say — at least it will make it happen!
You can always keep it fun and build excitement throughout the day. Send flirty texts, suggestive emails, and seductive selfies to amp up the mood for your sex date. You may even want to consider sex toys, depending on your Christian convictions. You will forget it was planned and it will feel just as spontaneous as ever.
Step Up Your Game
Don’t wait for your partner to make the first step every time. Initiate sex more often, and show your partner that you care through flirtatious remarks and romantic gestures. Also, don’t dismiss the power of skin to skin contact, and make sure to hold hands, cuddle, and hug every chance you get!
More Tips to Keep Your Married Sex Life As Exciting As Ever
Even if you do everything in your power to turn up the heat in the bedroom, the plan may not work every time. Some things to keep in mind:
- Don’t resent your partner and become grumpy about it
- Sex isn’t always as steamy as in the movies — keep your expectations realistic
- Put quality over quantity — you don’t have to have sex every night as long as it is great when it happens
- Be mindful of your physical and mental well-being — you will enjoy sex even more for it